I just realized that, when messaging strange men, I have been giving them a “hard sell” based on my many wonderful qualities. Is that too similar to how I dealt with potential clients? Instead, perhaps, I need to flatter them and their sensitive egos.
I just messaged one attractive man that we had so much in common except he is a vegetarian. I actually offered, for the right man, to give up meat!! WTF? I don’t want to give up meat for anyone and don’t you dare try to take my chicken away!!
Note to self: you will not change yourself to please a man. Trying new adventures and hobbies, sure, but making sacrifices, hell no! He was a dog person anyway and I am totally a cat person. It would never work.
Gorgeous 52 year old wants to “chat”. If only he didn’t live in Saratoga Springs. Heartbreaking. Why am I being tormented by the universe?
I heard from a handsome dude from Chicago. I wrote him back to say when he is ready to move to NY to please let me know. I am neither looking for a pen pal nor a long distance romance. Not much fun in that.
Wow there sure are a lot of unattached men out there, but why do so many of the ones who “like” me live in distant states? They look so appealing, then you see SD or CA.
My good friend and neighbor Sheryl, who has survived the online dating game with great success, has been offering me advice:
- Don’t talk too much or too long on the phone.
- Learn to listen (especially challenging for me)
- Meet ASAP. Because if they are just wrong for you, don’t drag it out over calls and texts. Move on.
- Know what you want in a relationship. (Vacations and sex?)
Actually I have been getting lazy lately. I have quit sending clever “bon mots” and have instead reverted to just sending the wink, nod, or like. Too time consuming to be so cutesy when I need to be devoting my energies to blogging. Writing has become more entertaining for me than texting and talking to strange good looking men on the phone anyway. Okay that was a lie, just checking to see who read until the end.